Archive for October 24, 2011


Lets blame the victim

Is anyone surprised that a rape victim was blamed for being raped? It’s not surprising to me, in fact I expect it. Don’t you people know that it’s always the woman’s fault!!

It’s not even surprising to me (any more) that they are even blaming the victim when the victim is a child.

Rape of girl, 11, tears apart Texas town as many insist on blaming the victim

“She lied about her age,” Angie Woods told the Houston Chronicle. “Them boys didn’t rape her. She wanted this to happen.”

Speaking for many at the meeting in Cleveland, Tex., Woods insisted she was “not taking nobody’s side.”

“But if she hadn’t put herself in that predicament, this would have never happened,” she said.

The girl’s parents were also blasted by many at the meeting last Thursday for failing to keep track of the girl.

“I also think the parents of that child needs to be held accountable,” said Sheila Hightower, who lives in Cleveland. “You weren’t even aware where she was.”

Here’s a novel idea, why don’t we blame the men for the rape? Why don’t we hold them accountable for their actions? Even if the girl ‘wanted this to happen’ a 16-yr old should know that it is wrong to have sex with an eleven-year old CHILD. Why isn’t anyone blaming his parents for not bringing him up better?

“She’s 11 years old, it shouldn’t have happened,” said Oscar Carter, who has a family connection to a 16-year-old charged in the case. “That’s a child. Somebody should have said what we are doing is wrong.”

Yes someone should, but no one did, instead they recorded it on their cell phone. Which in a twisted turn of events is how the police got involved. Even so, it’s still the woman, er, girl’s fault.

Thursday Em came to the City, she and I were planning on going to the Today Show to watch Coldplay perform. I don’t know how she found out about my huge crush on Chris Martin, but she did so when she got Fan Passes for Coldplay she invited me.

She spent Thursday night at my apartment. I woke up at 2:00 am, I don’t know why but then I couldn’t get back to sleep, partly because someone was snoring (whoever said people don’t snore when sleeping on their side was LYING!) and partly because I wasn’t feeling well. About 4:30 I couldn’t take it anymore and started to get dressed, I was going to find out if Duane Reade really does stay open all night (the one near my apartment does). I got some medicine for my tummy, then I took some Tylenol for my head. We left to catch the subway our destination the Today Show.

The show is free, but you still pay. You pay by signing up online hoping to get fan passes. We did. You pay by getting up earlier than you normally do, for some of us, like me. You pay by standing in the cold from 6:00 a.m. to 8:30 a.m. to hear them play, while you can’t see them because you are too short/there are too many people/some skanky girl is standing on the barricade you are standing behind. They played 5 songs. The sound wasn’t good, not for the music but for the interviews. It was fantastic.

Afterwards we got breakfast and then Em had an appointment for a salt scrub. I wandered around, kind of dead on my feet from lack of sleep and standing in one spot for 2-½ hours. Looking for shoes at TJ Maxx and then Marshall’s. Then she was done and we were trying to meet up, the other store she wanted to go to was closed. She had managed to move her nail appointment to earlier so we went back to my place so she could get her stuff. She told me I could stay there, she getting her nails done and going home. I was so tired, so tired, that was kind of it for me.

And that’s all, she says.